julia tolley psychotherapist and counsellor, halesowen, west midlands
Julia Tolley, Psychoterapy and Coaching West Midlands


Some people know exactly what they want from life; others don’t. Even if you do, it’s not always clear how best to get there. As a life coach, my job is to help you unearth your latent dreams and passions, match these with your values, strengths and talents, and encourage and support you to make the changes that are best for you.
Life coaching is a journey from where you are now to where you want to be.

How does coaching work?

All aspects of life – career, relationships, health, leisure time, emotional development and spiritual wellbeing – need to be considered when finding the right path in life. If you decide to work with me, we will look at all of them.
We'll begin with a discovery session during which you get to tell me about yourself. Together we explore what really drives and motivates you, what’s important to you, what unfulfilled dreams you may have tucked away somewhere. We’ll look at the obstacles that might be getting in the way of you achieving your full potential, and possible ways to overcome them.
After that we’ll have weekly sessions of 30-45 minutes – either in person or over the phone, depending on your schedule and where you live (you don’t have to be in the West Midlands). In each session we’ll look at your progress so far, what you want to achieve in the coming week, and agree some action plans.
I believe that each of us already has the innate resources to achieve our goals. As your coach, my job is to help you tap into these resources. In this way, life coaching ensures that you do what’s absolutely right for you and not what anybody else thinks you should do

Coaching Location

Cradley Heath near Halesowen.
My clients come from Birmingham, Bromsgrove, Walsall, Wolverhampton and the surrounding West Midlands.
We are easily reachable from West Midlands, Halesowen, Dudley, Black Heath, Cradley Heath, Quarry Bank, Brierley Hill, Rowley Regis, Stourbridge, Hagley, Oldswinford, Wordsley, Kingswinford, Wall Hath, Wednesbury, Sandwell, Oldbury, Hill Top, Great Bridge, Sedgley, Walsall, Kingstanding, Sutton Coldfield and Quinton.

The Coaching Model

Utilising the GROW model of Coaching this enables the Coachee to achieve specific personal or professional goals.

The GROW Model is deservedly one of the best known and widely used coaching models. It provides a simple yet powerful framework for navigating a route through a coaching session, as well as providing a means of finding your way when lost.

It is described in a number of coaching books, including John Whitmore's excellent book Coaching For Performance: Growing People, Performance and Purpose. GROW is an acronym for Goal, current Reality, Options and Will - which are seen as the four key elements of a coaching session.

The GROW Model is described here as it applies to an individual session but part of its strength is that it can equally well be applied to a part of a session, or to series of sessions. In each case, the principle is the same.

Firstly, a session must have a Goal or outcome to be achieved. The goal should be as specific as possible and it must be possible to measure whether it has been achieved. So, having identified the goal, questions like "How will you know that you have achieved that goal?" are useful here.

As well as knowing where you are trying to get to, you need to know where you are starting from - the Current Reality. It is surprising how often this is the key part of a coaching session and that by just seeing clearly the situation (rather than what was thought or imagined to be the situation), the resolution becomes obvious and straightforward.

Once you know where you are and where you want to go, the next step is to explore what Options you have for getting there. A useful metaphor for GROW is a map: once you know where you are going (the goal) and where you are (current reality), you can explore possible ways of making the journey (options) and choose the best.

But this in itself is not enough - you must also have the motivation or Will to make the journey. The "W" is often taken to stand for a number of other elements of a session, all of which are important. Myles Downey in his book "Effective Coaching" suggests it stands for "Wrap-up"; others have it standing for What, Where, Why, When and How. But whatever is emphasised, the desired outcome from this stage is a commitment to action.

The GROW process has been presented sequentially here. In practice, it is a much less linear process which may start anywhere and revisit each of the stages several times. Often when I have lost my way in a session or got stuck, I turn to The GROW Model to check out where I need to put my attention.